September 21, 2009

Sunday, 918am

Judy Engblom, better known to readers of The Pond as "Momzerduck", passed away at 918am on Sunday, September 20th.

The doctors had stayed encouraged regarding a liver transplant on Saturday.  Everything was progressing as they expected, though the dialysis that day hadn't pulled out as much fluid as they had hoped.  It wasn't a problem, per se, just added another day or two to the wait for being put on The List.

I had spent the entire day with her in the ICU ward, then Ph.Duck and I went back to his apartment to get some sleep.  We got there around 1030pm, and fell asleep almost immediately thereafter.

At 1130pm, we got a phone call from the ICU, asking us to come back immediately.  When we got there, we found her room filled with doctors and nurses, all of whom were moving quickly and talking in clipped, professional tones.  Two of the doctors took us into a conference room to explain what had happened.

When the nurses began to turn her (so as to prevent bedsores), her heart went into Ventricular Tachycardia, which was very much like what I had during The Cardiac Incident, except that where my heart sped up to about 250bpm, hers had stopped beating and started quivering uncontrollably.  They shocked her with the paddles, which did regain a pulse.  Just a minute or so later, however, her heart stopped again.  This time, shocking her didn't help, so they began chest compression and various drugs.  After 10 minutes or so of this, her heart restarted.

When we asked the doctors what this would do to her chances for a liver transplant, they replied frankly and honestly: "We won't know for sure until the Liver team comes in, but it probably will prevent her from being considered a viable candidate."

When the Liver team leader confirmed that, we made the decision to withdraw life support, for that was, in fact, what she was on at this time.  She had been essentially comatose for the previous three days as a result of an encephalopathy attack, aided by some light sedation to prevent her from tearing at her feeding tube and the ventilation hose (she had managed to remove the feeding tube during the onset of the encephalopathy). 

Unfortunately, during the resuscitation attempts, they had to withdraw the sedation, as it would interfere with bringing up her blood pressure to minimum levels... and it was obvious during the time she was without it that she was in some serious discomfort from the hoses, needles and wires.  As this was all being done to get her to a new liver, which now was never going to arrive, we knew that she wouldn't... didn't... want to suffer any more.

The ventilation hose and the final drugs were removed at 915am.  At 918am on Sunday morning, September 20th, 2009, the woman that I was honored to call my mother, Judy Engblom, Momzerduck, passed away. 

She was so much more than I deserved.

She loved this picture... had a copy of it on the wall next to her computer at home.

Posted by: Wonderduck at 09:43 PM | Comments (37) | Add Comment
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1 I was afraid it'll go like this ever since the infection delay. So sucks.

Posted by: Pete Zaitcev at September 21, 2009 11:32 PM (/ppBw)

2 I'm very, very sorry.

Posted by: Steven Den Beste at September 22, 2009 01:05 AM (+rSRq)

3 You have my deepest condolances.

Posted by: Ken Talton at September 22, 2009 01:14 AM (LNYu4)

4 I'm so sorry, Wonderduck.  I know from all you've said how much she'll be missed.

Posted by: Pixy Misa at September 22, 2009 01:22 AM (PiXy!)

5 I can only imagine how hard it must be to lose a parent like that. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Posted by: Andrew F. at September 22, 2009 05:37 AM (KY8yE)


My deepest condolences, Wonderduck.  Life continues, but is never the same.

Posted by: JT at September 22, 2009 06:52 AM (HO6Is)

7 Condolences. Best wishes to you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Posted by: HC at September 22, 2009 07:22 AM (y+7vV)

8 Condolences for your loss. (I know, it sounds trite, but I'm just not good at this.)

Posted by: ubu at September 22, 2009 07:23 AM (i7ZAU)

9 My heart goes out to you and yours, good sir.

Posted by: GreyDuck at September 22, 2009 07:30 AM (o5Lvb)

10 I am very sorry to hear of you loss.  My deepest condolences.

Posted by: Tom at September 22, 2009 07:57 AM (3E+YO)

11 I am keeping you and your father in my prayers.

Posted by: dkallen99 at September 22, 2009 07:58 AM (1PFDl)

12 My deepest condolences.

Posted by: Fledgling Otaku at September 22, 2009 09:18 AM (DV2bB)

13 So sorry for your loss, you'll be in my thoughts.

Posted by: Andy Janes at September 22, 2009 09:42 AM (cEaZp)


I'm so sorry to hear that your Mom has passed.  Sincerest condolences on your loss and I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.



Posted by: Mallory at September 22, 2009 09:52 AM (WJ2qy)

15 I'm sorry for your loss.

Posted by: Mitch H. at September 22, 2009 10:35 AM (jwKxK)

16 Condolences for your loss. 

Posted by: Nick at September 22, 2009 10:37 AM (kw3Yp)

17 My condolences as well.

Posted by: arson55 at September 22, 2009 11:05 AM (2cWEL)

18 My condolences to you and your family.

Posted by: UtahMan at September 22, 2009 11:50 AM (p1tb6)

19 My condolences.

She's stretching her wings in a better place.

Posted by: Will at September 22, 2009 12:10 PM (WnBa/)

20 Condolences to you and yours.

Posted by: HayZeus at September 22, 2009 12:27 PM (RHxVZ)

21 I wish there was something I could say to help. Just let us know if there's anything at all that you need.

Posted by: Avatar_exADV at September 22, 2009 03:06 PM (pWQz4)

22 Here's to the Mom of the Pond. You raised one hell of a guy. ::bows head::

Posted by: Jaked at September 22, 2009 03:25 PM (ayob+)

23 My condolences to you and your family on your loss.

Posted by: Civilis at September 22, 2009 03:42 PM (XaQJF)

24 So sorry to hear that. My condolences.

Posted by: Mike at September 22, 2009 04:13 PM (O3ri9)

25 So sad, my condolences .

Posted by: Bland Thomas at September 22, 2009 05:31 PM (PqJQe)

26 My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. 

Posted by: Robert V at September 22, 2009 05:59 PM (oOE8H)

27 So sorry to hear about this, Eric.  Hang in there.

Posted by: Jeff Lawson at September 22, 2009 06:26 PM (2M+CN)

28 I am so very sorry to hear this. Please accept my sympathy in this terrible time.

Posted by: boviate at September 22, 2009 06:57 PM (PJNgE)

29 Okay, you have dragged me into this century, Eric.  I have never posted on a blog before.  For what it's worth, you deserved your mom. Every bit of her.

Posted by: Karen M. at September 22, 2009 07:24 PM (/4/ss)

30 What terribly sad news. You have my deepest sympathy.

Posted by: Jonathan Tappan at September 22, 2009 08:09 PM (7wFYN)

31 I'm so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my prayers. Such beautiful words you used to describe her... she must have been an amazing woman.

Posted by: madmike at September 22, 2009 09:51 PM (MJ3gP)

32 My condolences for your loss.

Posted by: Jim Burdo at September 23, 2009 12:56 AM (2i7ug)

33 Sorry for your loss.  All the best to you and yours in this difficult time.

Posted by: Shamus at September 23, 2009 02:27 AM (uOdfP)

34 I'm very sorry at the news.

Posted by: James R. Rummel at September 23, 2009 04:16 AM (85JOu)

35 Sorry to hear it. My condolences as well.

Posted by: Cybrludite at September 23, 2009 04:22 AM (tUrhM)

36 Though condolences and sympathies aren't enough, you have mine.

Posted by: kevin at September 26, 2009 05:44 AM (2pq8o)

37 I'm very sorry to hear what happened to your mother. I'm sure she was a good woman, since you used so many perfectly correct words to describe her. I hope your life still continues as normal and that she still lives on in our memories. May god protect her.

Posted by: Keitaro-kun at September 27, 2009 01:39 PM (2koFw)

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